Emotional Side of BPI
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Jess & Kyle
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Emotional Side of BPI
I have a question for you guys. As you know, my husband suffered a TBPI in Nov of 2003. He had surgery Mar 2nd in TX ~ 2 nerve transfers to regain bicep and shoulder function.
Well, my question is... How do I deal with all of this? He is starting to get down in dumps all the time. He can't work because of the injury, but thank god we have great family who are helping us out a lot. He is getting to the point where he lays around a lot. I just don't know what to say or how to deal with it when he is in his moods. I thought maybe some of you who have been in our situation might have some advice. I am at a loss.....
Thanks,
Jessica
Well, my question is... How do I deal with all of this? He is starting to get down in dumps all the time. He can't work because of the injury, but thank god we have great family who are helping us out a lot. He is getting to the point where he lays around a lot. I just don't know what to say or how to deal with it when he is in his moods. I thought maybe some of you who have been in our situation might have some advice. I am at a loss.....
Thanks,
Jessica
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Karrie in MD.
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Re: Emotional Side of BPI
Has your husband ever checked out the Traumatic injury message boards? There are alot of adults that were injured like your husband. They share many ideas and are a great source for support. They would understand what your husband is going through and could possibly offer some guidance to him as well as yourself. Maybe the both of you could visit the site together or maybe you could just discretely leave the boards open on the computer one day and your hubby will stumble onto it.
Hope you both find some comfort soon.
Karrie
Hope you both find some comfort soon.
Karrie
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StephaniefromOR
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Re: Emotional Side of BPI
Dear Jess,
I am sorry to hear about your husbands TBPI and the subsequent problems it has caused you both. I agree w/ the above poster that the traumatic adult BPI site would be a wonderful resource. Perhaps some professional counseling if your husband was willing to go. He (and you for that matter) have undergone considerable change and stress in the last several months. Your husband could be clinically depressed or be suffering from post traumatic shock... Perhaps if you confided in your clergy or an friend or respected relative of your husbands he would consider going. As a mother of an injured child I sought counseling to deal w/ the grief, stress and anger I was feeling. Luckily I found a wonderful counselor who helped me through this emotional roller coaster. I wish you and your husband strength and peace as you navigate this difficult time.
I am sorry to hear about your husbands TBPI and the subsequent problems it has caused you both. I agree w/ the above poster that the traumatic adult BPI site would be a wonderful resource. Perhaps some professional counseling if your husband was willing to go. He (and you for that matter) have undergone considerable change and stress in the last several months. Your husband could be clinically depressed or be suffering from post traumatic shock... Perhaps if you confided in your clergy or an friend or respected relative of your husbands he would consider going. As a mother of an injured child I sought counseling to deal w/ the grief, stress and anger I was feeling. Luckily I found a wonderful counselor who helped me through this emotional roller coaster. I wish you and your husband strength and peace as you navigate this difficult time.
Re: Emotional Side of BPI
It's tough. I was injured almost two years ago and went through and am still going through some tough times. It's a time of grieving for the loss of life as you knew it. It take time to adjust. I have been on antidepressents and seeing a counselor. Most important is to let him grieve but don't let him quit living. My husband "pushed" me and it helped-but that's what I needed. Your husband may not respond well to that. It all depends on his personality. Encourage him to get on this site and talk with others who are going through or have gone through the same thing. I am so happy to have found this site.
