some good news...not all guys are bad

[hope16_05]

Well, I am running with it and I am pretty sure he is the sweetest guy ever! So I had an idea for a fundraser to make money to donate to UBPN for camp and it involves karaoke/a DJ and so I asked Brett if he would do it and he said he would donate his time and if I set it up before he had all his equipment that he would cover the costs to use his companies stuff. I thought that was pretty amazing for him to offer.

So if anyone is close to Duluth, MN I will be setting up a fundraiser at a bar here (or that is the goal anyway) I am thinking it will be early to mid June But I will have to see what the bars will offer me. I will keep you all posted.


Tina, you are so right! I have never felt anything better than finding Brett! I love being with him and I so can not wait to see him again! Is it next Wednesday yet???

Hugs,
Amy

[JamieMarie'smommie]

I'm so happy for u Amy that u found someone that could see beyond the BPI and see the real woman u are.

Amanda (mom to Jamie ROBPI 3yrs old)

[Joanie]

Amy,

I was out of town from 2/28 until 3/10, and it's taking me time to catch up with the message boards.

I'm so happy that you've found someone who sees who you truly are. I've been smiling the whole time I've been reading this thread. I second all that's been said here already. Enjoy this wonderful time in your life.

Joanie

[Judy-T]

I am very happy for you Amy!!! Such good news!
Brett is a lucky guy to find a nice person like you!!!


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[TheTrooper]

Great to hear congratulations.

I have my doubts though all your stories are the same in that your all women. I am a dude and havent had a girlfriend for over a year when I was younger the girls loved me now I'm not so sure. I am going to college in september and I'm not confident that girls can look by my injury. I can see a chick liking me at first then being scared away, besides most girls are shallow anyways so I'm pretty much screwed. They all want big guns and so on.

[Carolyn J]

"Mr. Trooper",
So sorry for you and your injuries. The emotional ones are the hardest ones to face. I hope you get the courage someday and stop blaming women.

FYI, attitudes can be a turn off for College girls.

Carolyn J
LOBPI/69-overaged adult.


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[TheTrooper]

I never blamed women all I was doing was admitting that I am worried about what will happen. I do not have the self confidence I once had.

All I said was I am worried that girls will be shallow towards me, maybe I read your reply wrong but it seems your taking a shot at me which is cool, get in line.

To the thread maker I didn't mean to hijack this thread your post just made me want to respond. I am happy for you good luck sounds like a nice dude.

[hope16_05]

Hey Brian,
Its ok to hi jack the thread, my title was kinda mean sounding after seeing a guy reply. Sorry. I guess I lost all confidence in guys for the longest time. I could see how a guy would have the same problem.

When you are ready, work on your self confidence, tell yourself every day that there are good people out there and sometimes it just takes time to meet them. The time will come that you finally meet the woman of your dreams who doesnt see your injury as an issue. And maybe there are several people that we will all meet that dont see our injuries as issues. who knows? Good luck with the transition to college, college can be fun if you respect yourself!

If you are anything like the rest of us that have bpis then there is a lucky girl out there waiting to meet you! Some woman will be very lucky to steal your heart some day! But dont rush it, anything worth having is worth waiting for.

Hugs,
Amy 21 years old ROBPI from MN and happily dating the most amazing guy ever!

[Baeta]

I'm glad to hear you have found someone you really care about that cares about you! It's hard to get into relationships when you think you're going to be judged (i let my BPI keep me from agreeing to date until i was like 18). Then you realize they don't care about the injury, they just care about you. My fiance doesn't even notice that my arm is injured, he just shrugs it of because it really doesn't matter. Good luck you you!

[Kath]

I was wondering when a guy would jump in!

I personally was always more attracted to someone's personality and general behavior than I was to looks.
Of course in the good old days of the early 60's I admit I would not date a man who could not dance. That was my one true prejudice.

I have been married for 43 years and met my husband 44 years ago. He never noticed my arm and I had to keep explaining it to him. I do not have a mild injury.
I am from the "Happy Days" generation. We dated a lot and did not get serious too quickly. I never felt that someone really paid that much attention to my arm. Most of my male friends never noticed my arm and I always had to explain. If it bothered someone I am glad I did not realize it. I still can't remember the name of the OBPI who said on this board "our arms are great filters". We get rid of the shallow people.

I hope you can regain your confidence before heading off to college. Your arm should NEVER define you. You are always more than and arm. Only you can let someone make you feel bad about you. I am sure it's hard sometimes in our society that is so focused on body...
Lasting relationships are based on mutual respect and caring not on superficial beauty. Beauty fades but a good and caring person just get better with age... like fine wine.

Off the soap box...

Kath robpi/adult