all i want to do is dance...
all i want to do is dance...
A lot of my friends love country and latin dancing. They get so excited about going and all I do is hurt inside... especially when they insist I go even when they know about my arm.
It looks so fun... if only I could raise my arm over my head. I hate to be the party pooper so sometimes I tough it out and go- then when I'm dancing I tell guys I hurt my shoulder in some sort of accident. Usually they're all pretty cool about it.. and dance with me anyway.. but I'm still so self conscious the whole time.
Anyway.. I'm just venting a bit. Right now I'm still in a cast from the bicep tendon surgery. My friends are going dancing on Saturday night- so maybe I'll just go and be entertained from the sidelines. Then hopefully in 7 weeks... or so... my arm will be ready for the challenge.. I hope
I'll work my butt off until I get there.
Have a good weekend everyone...
Staci (26)- SLC
ROBPI
It looks so fun... if only I could raise my arm over my head. I hate to be the party pooper so sometimes I tough it out and go- then when I'm dancing I tell guys I hurt my shoulder in some sort of accident. Usually they're all pretty cool about it.. and dance with me anyway.. but I'm still so self conscious the whole time.
Anyway.. I'm just venting a bit. Right now I'm still in a cast from the bicep tendon surgery. My friends are going dancing on Saturday night- so maybe I'll just go and be entertained from the sidelines. Then hopefully in 7 weeks... or so... my arm will be ready for the challenge.. I hope
I'll work my butt off until I get there.Have a good weekend everyone...
Staci (26)- SLC
ROBPI
Re: all i want to do is dance...
Go. The point isn't to dance well, the point is to dance. If you love it then do it. I know it is hard to not be self conscious about your arm, but the more you do it, the easier it will get. You can't let your arm stop you from enjoying and living life.
38 lobpi
MN
38 lobpi
MN
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Kath
- Posts: 3242
- Joined: Mon Nov 18, 2002 4:11 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: I am ROBPI, global injury, Horner's Syndrome. No surgery but PT started at 2 weeks old under the direction of New York Hospital. I wore a brace 24/7 for the first 11 months of my life. I've never let my injury be used as an excuse not to do something. I've approach all things, in life, as a challenge. I approach anything new wondering if I can do it. I tried so many things I might never have tried, if I were not obpi. Being OBPI has made me strong, creative, more determined and persistent. I believe that being obpi has given me a very strong sense of humor and compassion for others.
- Location: New York
Re: all i want to do is dance...
Staci
When I was young the only thing you could do was go to local dances.
I would hate to think how lonely my life would have been if I had backed away from going because of my arm.
I can't put my arm up over my head but I danced all the time.
Go to the dance socialize and have fun.
Dances are really more about socializing then the actual dance unless your in a completion.
Enjoy yourself and your friends.
Kath robi/adult
When I was young the only thing you could do was go to local dances.
I would hate to think how lonely my life would have been if I had backed away from going because of my arm.
I can't put my arm up over my head but I danced all the time.
Go to the dance socialize and have fun.
Dances are really more about socializing then the actual dance unless your in a completion.
Enjoy yourself and your friends.
Kath robi/adult
Kath robpi/adult
Kathleen Mallozzi
Kathleen Mallozzi
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Carolyn J
- Posts: 3424
- Joined: Tue Apr 06, 2004 1:22 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: LOBPI. I am 77 yrs old and never had a name for my injuries until 2004 when I found UBPN at age 66.
My injuries are: LOBPI on upper body and Cerebrael Palsy on the lower left extremities. The only intervention I've had is a tendon transplant from my left leg to my left foot to enable flexing t age 24 in 1962. Before that, my foot would freeze without notice on the side when wearing heels AND I always did wear them at work "to fit in" I also stuttered until around age 18-19...just outgrew it...no therapy for it. Also suffered from very very low self esteem; severe Depression and Anxiety attacks started at menopause. I stuffed emotions and over-compensated in every thing I did to "fit in" and be "invisible". My injuries were Never addressed or talked about until age 66. I am a late bloomer!!!!!
I welcome any and all questions about "My Journey".
There is NO SUCH THING AS A DUMB QUESTION.
Sharing helps to Heal. HUGS do too. - Location: Tacoma WA
- Contact:
Re: all i want to do is dance...
Staci,
When I was young & single--"long ago",LOL--I loved to dance & didn't let anything stop me even when my Left BPI ankle could lock up anytime on me.
Staci, you'd be surprised that NOBOBY is really looking at you that closely...I found that out, soo I really danced my 20's away big time.
HUGS,
Carolyn J
LOBPI, age 68 & proud of it!
When I was young & single--"long ago",LOL--I loved to dance & didn't let anything stop me even when my Left BPI ankle could lock up anytime on me.
Staci, you'd be surprised that NOBOBY is really looking at you that closely...I found that out, soo I really danced my 20's away big time.
HUGS,
Carolyn J
LOBPI, age 68 & proud of it!
Carolyn J
Adult LOBPI
Adult LOBPI
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hope16_05
- Posts: 1670
- Joined: Tue Jul 01, 2003 11:33 am
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: 28 years old with a right obstetrical brachial plexus injury. 5 surgeries to date with pretty decent results. Last surgery resolved years of pain in my right arm however, I am beginning my journey with overuse in my left arm
- Location: Minnesota
- Contact:
Re: all i want to do is dance...
Staci, I totally understand how you feel. With the dances these days I hate to go because I cant raise my arm up either. I try so hard not to be self concious about my arm but fdancing is the one maor thing that still really gets to me. I hardly go to dances at school, I would rather do some homework or something that does not put me in that totally uncomfortable situation.
I hope that your surgery will let you achieve your goal of reaching above your head so you can dance your heart out and not be self concious!
Good luck,
Amy 19 ROBPI from MN
I hope that your surgery will let you achieve your goal of reaching above your head so you can dance your heart out and not be self concious!
Good luck,
Amy 19 ROBPI from MN
Amy 28 years old ROBPI from MN
Re: all i want to do is dance...
Staci,
Life is too short not to do the things you want to do/love to do.
Even if you can't raise up your arm, do the rest of the dance; or raise it up with your other hand (my daughter does this sometimes).
The best thing you can do to is to be comfortable with who you are, BPI and all. If you comfortable and at ease, then those around you will be too.
I say get out there and dance, cast and all!
Peggy
Life is too short not to do the things you want to do/love to do.
Even if you can't raise up your arm, do the rest of the dance; or raise it up with your other hand (my daughter does this sometimes).
The best thing you can do to is to be comfortable with who you are, BPI and all. If you comfortable and at ease, then those around you will be too.
I say get out there and dance, cast and all!
Peggy
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rachelcasa
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- Joined: Mon Apr 21, 2003 11:45 pm
Re: all i want to do is dance...
I always have to laugh at myself when I go to a concert; everyone has both of their arms up in the air and I'm always cockeyed with one arm up and the other half up. I doubt anyone really notices although it is us just being self conscious of ourselves. Just don't do any wild swinging jitterbug moves!!
Good luck to you and as the song goes..."I hope you dance!!!"
Good luck to you and as the song goes..."I hope you dance!!!"
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Kath
- Posts: 3242
- Joined: Mon Nov 18, 2002 4:11 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: I am ROBPI, global injury, Horner's Syndrome. No surgery but PT started at 2 weeks old under the direction of New York Hospital. I wore a brace 24/7 for the first 11 months of my life. I've never let my injury be used as an excuse not to do something. I've approach all things, in life, as a challenge. I approach anything new wondering if I can do it. I tried so many things I might never have tried, if I were not obpi. Being OBPI has made me strong, creative, more determined and persistent. I believe that being obpi has given me a very strong sense of humor and compassion for others.
- Location: New York
Re: all i want to do is dance...
Hey Rachel
You dance just like I do... one arm up and the other midline.
I love the song Shout... but when it gets to the part where you throw your arms up and shout... I throw one arm up... LOL... no one notices but us...
Kath robpi/adult
You dance just like I do... one arm up and the other midline.
I love the song Shout... but when it gets to the part where you throw your arms up and shout... I throw one arm up... LOL... no one notices but us...
Kath robpi/adult
Kath robpi/adult
Kathleen Mallozzi
Kathleen Mallozzi
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rachelcasa
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- Joined: Mon Apr 21, 2003 11:45 pm
Re: all i want to do is dance...
*L* Oh Kath,
you sure do make me laugh. I do the same thing what on earth else do we do right? I guess at least we have our legs to move our bodies at least. *S*
I hope all is well.
you sure do make me laugh. I do the same thing what on earth else do we do right? I guess at least we have our legs to move our bodies at least. *S*
I hope all is well.
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Carolyn J
- Posts: 3424
- Joined: Tue Apr 06, 2004 1:22 pm
- Injury Description, Date, extent, surgical intervention etc: LOBPI. I am 77 yrs old and never had a name for my injuries until 2004 when I found UBPN at age 66.
My injuries are: LOBPI on upper body and Cerebrael Palsy on the lower left extremities. The only intervention I've had is a tendon transplant from my left leg to my left foot to enable flexing t age 24 in 1962. Before that, my foot would freeze without notice on the side when wearing heels AND I always did wear them at work "to fit in" I also stuttered until around age 18-19...just outgrew it...no therapy for it. Also suffered from very very low self esteem; severe Depression and Anxiety attacks started at menopause. I stuffed emotions and over-compensated in every thing I did to "fit in" and be "invisible". My injuries were Never addressed or talked about until age 66. I am a late bloomer!!!!!
I welcome any and all questions about "My Journey".
There is NO SUCH THING AS A DUMB QUESTION.
Sharing helps to Heal. HUGS do too. - Location: Tacoma WA
- Contact:
Re: all i want to do is dance...
Staci,
Have you danced yet?? Let us know when you try it,OK?? You must try it!! It IS so joyful when you've risked to do something new...
HUGS,
Carolyn J
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Have you danced yet?? Let us know when you try it,OK?? You must try it!! It IS so joyful when you've risked to do something new...
HUGS,
Carolyn J
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Carolyn J
Adult LOBPI
Adult LOBPI
