Our new cello!
Posted: Wed Dec 02, 2009 10:00 pm
Hi, everyone! It's been quite some time since I've posted. Alexis is seven now, and doing quite well. She is severely injured, but very determined, and most often refuses any help, insisting that she can do everything herself. There is not much she hasn't done that she has put her mind to. WELL... She recently decided she wants to play an instrument. Folks, she can't bend her arm past the waist, cannot lift at all at the shoulder, can't extend wrist or hand, and can only move her index finger - a little. What she CAN do is a sort of sawing motion back and forth at the waist. I'll bet you can guess what instrument we thought of! (oh yeah, I also put it in the subject, didn't I ) She has a brand new cello! Her teacher is great, allows for modifications on Lexi's part, but expects her to practice and take it seriously.
Now for my question. Lexi seems to tire very easily from holding the bow, cutting practice time way short every day. By short, I mean she wants to be done after ten minutes, sometimes less. Now if this were one of my non-BPI children, I would say, "Nice try - get back to work!" (We are one of those strict sets of parents, though very loving with our children). But I'm not sure what to do about this. I can't feel what she's feeling, but she is also a normal kid in every way, and I don't want to be duped into letting her off the hook if she's just being lazy. This could apply with any aspect of life, I suppose. We don't treat her any differently than our other children, but obviously she will have limitations that the others don't have. I always knew there may come a time that she used her injury as a way to get out of things (though I realize she may NOT be doing that this time, though I suspect it - what kid likes music practice!), but I don't know how to "play that game", if you know what I mean, not having the injury myself.
I was hoping to get a few answers from parents with older BPI children, and maybe one from one of you adults with a BPI. What did YOU try to get away with as a child that had your parents duped. In reading back over this, I may sound like a mean mommy - I really am not one - I just expect my children to carry their share of the load, and learn to work hard. Of course, they are allowed plenty of time for fun and play! Thanks for listening!
Amy Clark, mom to Lexi 7 y.o. ROBPI
Now for my question. Lexi seems to tire very easily from holding the bow, cutting practice time way short every day. By short, I mean she wants to be done after ten minutes, sometimes less. Now if this were one of my non-BPI children, I would say, "Nice try - get back to work!" (We are one of those strict sets of parents, though very loving with our children). But I'm not sure what to do about this. I can't feel what she's feeling, but she is also a normal kid in every way, and I don't want to be duped into letting her off the hook if she's just being lazy. This could apply with any aspect of life, I suppose. We don't treat her any differently than our other children, but obviously she will have limitations that the others don't have. I always knew there may come a time that she used her injury as a way to get out of things (though I realize she may NOT be doing that this time, though I suspect it - what kid likes music practice!), but I don't know how to "play that game", if you know what I mean, not having the injury myself.
I was hoping to get a few answers from parents with older BPI children, and maybe one from one of you adults with a BPI. What did YOU try to get away with as a child that had your parents duped. In reading back over this, I may sound like a mean mommy - I really am not one - I just expect my children to carry their share of the load, and learn to work hard. Of course, they are allowed plenty of time for fun and play! Thanks for listening!
Amy Clark, mom to Lexi 7 y.o. ROBPI